steven franssen
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People Talk Past Each Other
People, at their most inattentive, are caught up in to-do’s, shoulds, and narratives about their lives that may or may not have anything to do with the social feedback around them. If a person wants to get things done, so be it. If a person wants to be intimately involved in the people around them,… Continue reading
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How To Not End Up A Loser In Your 30’s
How To Not End Up A Loser In Your 30’s The charm of youth wears off and people’s personalities become beholden to the habits they kept in adulthood. By the late 20’s, a person has fundamentally made their choice whether they will live truthfully and honestly or they will be a drain on others. People… Continue reading
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“You Made Me Feel!”
A common conflict trap that people get into in adult relationships is the accusatory, “you made me feel!” game. Let’s break it down:-Person A does something Person B does not approve of-Person B has some uncomfortable feeling, immediately attributes feeling to other person, says, “You’re making me feel x, y, z!”The you-made-me game falls flat… Continue reading