Essays
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“You Made Me Feel!”
A common conflict trap that people get into in adult relationships is the accusatory, “you made me feel!” game. Let’s break it down:-Person A does something Person B does not approve of-Person B has some uncomfortable feeling, immediately attributes feeling to other person, says, “You’re making me feel x, y, z!”The you-made-me game falls flat… Continue reading
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First Feedback
People have a tremendous intuitive capacity inside of them that they lose contact with as “shit happens”. Most people have it pounded out of them by their teenage years through the incorrect, harmful parenting that is commonplace. They also lose it because of television (a huge culprit), social media, and public schooling. In adulthood they… Continue reading
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Convincing People
When you discover the truth about something for yourself, when you’ve tested it through and it holds water, your first reaction in the early going is to turn to someone else and tell them everything. Maybe it’s sheer enthusiasm, though you learn quickly that most social environments don’t tolerate exuberance. Maybe you’re driven to tell… Continue reading