On the pain of heartbreak.
As I’ve said before, we live in Heartbreak World.
Government budgets keep expanding.
The birth rate keeps plummeting.
It’s a Sea Of Negativity out there.
We all need a reprieve but none is to be had. Most social continuity ended in 2020.
Those who have not resolved to any degree their childhood histories will be the most susceptible to Heartbreak going forward.
The Man In Agony
We all know a Man In Agony or two.
One of the first songs I ever wrote contained the lyric, “Why did you leave me?” in it. I believe I was 15 or 16 when I wrote that one. It was in response to a real life event. And I studied the question as I always have with anything that feels personally pertinent.
It took me a few years to come up with a solid answer to that teenaged question.
The first cut is the deepest.
Young children know when their mothers have lost that loving feeling – to quote The Righteous Brothers.
Typically it is because the mother has rejoined the work force. She’d rather be at a job than with the baby. It’s sad but true. Women with their maternal qualities programmed out of them tend to find babies stress making and grating.
You can hear the chorus of men going, “My mother didn’t work and yet here I am, in agony.”
Mothers become disillusioned. Lately, they’ve been given over to smartphones and Instagram. In yesteryear, it was the television, magazines, and would you believe it – going out for social events. Mothers also drown in the squalid, half-baked opinions of their “support network”.
Though it is painful and difficult, if a man doesn’t want to have his heart broken, he needs to revisit, however murky and opaque, his memories and felt sense of his mother’s abandonment of him. Did she do it for a job? Did she do it because she got garbage advice from her support network? Did she do it for a religion or a religious edict? Did she do it because the father was too much to stand up to? Did she do it in favor of another, more sterling sibling?
These details matter.
The pattern of heartbreak experienced from the The First Betrayal becomes the template for what happens in adulthood.
Look into it.
Lately I’ve been working on a lot of new music. It’s coming along swimmingly. Should have a single up sooner than later!