steve franssen
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“You Made Me Feel!”
A common conflict trap that people get into in adult relationships is the accusatory, “you made me feel!” game. Let’s break it down:-Person A does something Person B does not approve of-Person B has some uncomfortable feeling, immediately attributes feeling to other person, says, “You’re making me feel x, y, z!”The you-made-me game falls flat… Continue reading
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First Feedback
People have a tremendous intuitive capacity inside of them that they lose contact with as “shit happens”. Most people have it pounded out of them by their teenage years through the incorrect, harmful parenting that is commonplace. They also lose it because of television (a huge culprit), social media, and public schooling. In adulthood they… Continue reading
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Thinking Your Own Thoughts
People without a strong sense of self have difficulty retaining their own opinions, reactions, and decision-making with respect to events in the world. They will follow the most certain person in the room. Certainty gives the insecure comfort because it lends the impression that things have been thought through, contingencies have been accounted for, and… Continue reading